Saturday, May 2, 2015

Pay It Forward vs. Entitlement

Editor Kitteh is judging you. Judge, judge, judge.
If you read Secrets of a Snarky Writer or my blog on paying it forward, you know that I feel rather strongly that authors have to help each other. For the most part, out of all the jobs I've ever had, the writing world is by far the most helpful universe and is filled with folks more than happy to give you a little bump when it is needed.

Share this post, please? Why, sure. I'll share your post. Best of luck on future sales!

Retweet this post about my new release, please? No problem, friend. Retweeted. Have a great Tuesday.

Can I be on your blog for a day to reveal my cover/tell the world about my new release? Yup, yes you can. I'm happy to do so, just email me the stuff and tell me the date you want!

But then the water gets murky.

"Could you please write a blurb for the front of my book?"


If I have time to read your book and I enjoy it, I'm happy to provide an endorsement using my author name and brand to give you a bit of a bumpdraft. BUT, if the author you contact doesn't have the time or isn't allowed to do so for whatever reason, the response should never be,

"Well, you're a self-important jerkface!"

I've seen/heard/experienced this one a couple too many times not to make some kind of comment here, so bear with me. At the end of the day, yes, it is wonderful to help out other writers. Yes, we are the only ones who understand the unique hell of being in the middle of writing a book and feeling like we're a hack.

Yes, we're the only ones who understand what it is like to shove your baby book out of the nest with the hope it will fly like an eagle and not flop like dropped bologna.  


But we are NOT unique in being busy or having work of our own to do.

Every single job out there is shared by other people. You don't hear teachers saying, "Well, we teachers need to support each other!"

You know why? Because teachers aren't temperamental artists, stomping their feet and feeling like no one is listening. Yet writers behave this way ALL THE TIME. Like it is perfectly okay to do this, even if logic suggests it is so not okay.

If you're going to go out on a limb and ask someone for help/support, you have to understand that the other person could and might say no. They might explain why they said no. They might not. We're all grown up enough to be graceful and move on with business, right?

Wrong. Some folks attack the other person for that negative response, sometimes by simply telling them off in a message or email and others by publicly attacking the other person's work (via reviews or other possibly damaging acts.)

Seriously, this is a thing. Why are we doing this thing?

So here is my call to action stop doing that.

When someone else succeeds, instead of doing mean girl backbiting, give them a little round of applause. When someone else says they are busy, nod and say, "Well thanks anyway, friend." When someone just says no, thank them for taking the time to respond.

If you're going to be in business, drop the entitled attitude and realize that, although sometimes it feels like it, the world does not revolve around you.

We all have to do it. We all have someone who is too busy/too important/unable to help out when we ask. The part that is memorable is when we bow out gracefully instead of staging a war.

Happy Writing!
mama virg

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

#NewRelease #TemptingSigns Forever Devoted by Virginia Nelson

 Forever Devoted

by Virginia Nelson


12 Authors. 12 Zodiac Signs. 1 Explosive Series. What seductive, contemporary romance will you find today? TAURUS.

Robbie Jacobs is content being just one of the guys. For years, she’s run with her ‘Pack,’ a group of rowdy boys she went to high school with, used to party with, and now leans on in times of trouble. She has a couple gal pals, sure, but none of them are as close as the Pack…

Gray Smythe has been the unchallenged leader of their group of friends for years. Stoic, determined, he’s managed to be there for them all through some crazy shit. But when Robbie, the only girl in their group, gets into a car accident, the line between friendship and lover suddenly gets a hell of a lot thinner.

One stubborn Taurus man who’s sure he knows what’s right and wrong and one woman fighting to win back her body and a chance at love… Will Robbie believe Gray is actually Forever Devoted?

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

#CoverReveal #Wolves Romancing The Wolf Box Set!! #ComingSoon

Romancing the Wolf

They’re on the hunt after your heart. Discover 11 brand new passionate tales of friendship, desire, wolves, survival, and redemption. Escape to another world, another place, and another romance…

Warning: Contains wild heroes and heroines, tempestuous passion, old secrets, new discoveries, and pack ties binding them together. Sometimes love’s greatest challenge is romancing the wolf…

Desiree Holt- Heart of the Wolf (The Devora)

Shifter Lia Popescu is desperate to find the book Legends of the Werewolf, her only clue as to what happened to her pack. Her attempts to recover the tome bring her into contact with Riley Morgan, a meeting that explodes with sexual chemistry. She’s losing her heart to the sexy detective. How he will handle knowing the truth about her?

Saranna DeWylde The Ardennes Curse (Woolven Secret)

When Armand Rommulus killed Luc Ardennes in single combat before the Great Council, he was forced to leave his pack and his home—and claim his birthright as the Ardennes Alpha. Victoria Ardennes is prepared to do murder to break the curse tormenting her pack, until she discovers the life she must take is one she’s come to value above all others—even her own. 

Robyn MacKenzie – Chasing the Moon

For the first time in her life, Rayne Adams feels like she’s home in the sleepy little town of Hood River.  Jackson Locke is tense and anxious, and his wolf is itching to break free as the rogue terrorizing the town and his pack continues to elude him. One terrifying night throws Rayne into Jackson’s path and threatens to change everything.

Virginia Nelson - Odd Mate (The Odd Series)

As second to a female alpha, Charly endures the pity of his pack thanks to her mating. Not that he can admit the one wolf he truly loved left him years ago. Gretchen fell in love with a sweet, nerdy bear of a man, but a genetic twist of fate made her flee. When she returns to town, she can’t stay away from Charly. Can a wolf sworn to destroy all coyotes claim a coywolf mate or will he be forced to destroy the one girl he ever loved?

Gayle Donnelly – Running with the Wolf (The Cascadia Wolves)

To escape her abusive ex, Abigail Mann faked her death and fled to a small town in Oregon to start over. Abram Keaton is the most ruthless hunter of the Deschutes Pack. Hungering for the quiet, elusive kindergarten teacher sparks a need deep inside. When Abby’s past comes calling, Abram must make a choice…defy pack law and bring her into his world or let her run and lose her forever.

Cara Carnes - Redemption’s Forgiveness (The Rending)

Surviving as an Outsider was tough, but Felicity faces her harshest battle when she stumbles across a plot to overthrow the trading post, Redemption.  Marek will do anything to protect his pack and their land, including executing any Outsiders who dare enter pack lands. He knows there’s no soft in war—until a curvaceous wolf with more sass than sense limps into Redemption with an impossible tale of betrayal. Can the two discover trust and redemption together?

Brandy Walker – Under Her Spell (Keystone Predators)

The Beta of the Keystone Predators, Diego Mendoza loves his job and the responsibility that comes with it—even the simple task of retrieving his Alpha's cousin from the airport. Part wolf shifter and part witch Daphne Moore had a hell of a time fitting in and everyone wants her to choose. She is ready for a change and a trip to Arizona for her cousin's wedding seems like the perfect start. Diego wants her instantly, but she’s wary. Will Diego be able to enchant the woman who is witch and wolf?

Rebecca Royce - Always (Dragon Wars)

Robbie Owens has fought the dragons for seventeen years, leading his group of secret, elite werewolves. Tatyana Knox is a human in a world where humans are like unicorns—they simply don't exist. She is real, more she’s Robbie's mate. If he can only trust her, they will turn the tide of the war. But the clock is ticking and Tatyana's time with Robbie is almost up.
Jennifer Kacey - Violet's Shadow (Shadow Mates) 

Violet’s spent her whole life searching for where she belongs. Two weeks alone in a secluded cabin is music to her ears, until she sees a shadow in the forest with red glowing eyes. Rayden was sent to protect and guide her. Instead, he finds the mate he’s been unwilling to search for and a passion so fierce he’ll never be able to walk away. Everything she’s ever wanted in life and love is finally at her fingertips if she’s brave enough to embrace…her Shadow

Heather Long - Wolf with Benefits (Wolves of Willow Bend)

After dropping out of college and spending a summer breaking the law, Shiloh Sullivan needs to make amends. When she returns home, her best friend, the wolfish and playful Matt Montgomery, distracts he with a ‘pretend’ relationship, which annoys her parents. They never wanted their children to take the bite.  The friendly-with-benefits arrangement suits Matt fine—makes his mother happy, helps the pack forgive his best friend, and gives him a reason to pry into the secrets Shiloh’s been keeping.  Pretending a relationship with a wolf is impossible, the closer they get, the more Matt’s wolf wants to take their con game and make it a mating game. Can he keep his best friend and mate her, too?

Melissa Schroeder - The Alpha's Saving Grace (Lonestar Wolf Pack)

Alpha Jacob Sanderson doesn’t have time for distractions as he hunts a vicious killer attacking his pack. Sheriff Alexandra Littlefoot is his best resource and a woman he can’t seem to resist. As secrets rise to the surface, the killer’s violence escalates and threatens to destroy the entire pack.

#NewRelease #BondOfThree Riding Ripley is here!

Riding Ripley

By Virginia Nelson
Bond of Three #3


For years Zachary has ruthlessly rejected his desires, but with every passing day it becomes harder to deny he craves Stephen’s forbidden touch. Now, for the first time in memory, triads have been forming, pulling together two men and one woman to form a sacred bond. Finally Zachary dares to hope that his future may be a happy one.

Ripley has watched Zachary suffer for far too long, trapped on the sidelines between a man he dares not want and a woman he believes out of his league. Enough is enough. Denial is fine when it heightens desire, but Ripley is ready to take matters into her own hands. She’s going to ensure that, at the end of the day, she’s got both men she’s always wanted, by her side and in her bed.

Reader Advisory: This story has graphic sexual language and scenes—no closed bedroom doors (or other rooms) here!

A Romantica® paranormal erotic romance from Ellora’s Cave

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

UPDATES!! AKA what is coming soon from Virginia Nelson

1. Tomorrow Riding Ripley releases, the third of the Bond of Three series! *throws confetti*

2. Tomorrow is also the cover reveal for a super seekrit project I've been working on with some of my friends. We're throwing a party to celebrate that event and you can totally join here:

3. On Friday, my Black Hills Wolves story, Wolf on a Leash releases! *throws more confetti* (It is gonna look like I murdered a pinata in here, based on the amount of confetti I need for these announcements...) I'm really proud of this book and if you like wolves... methinks this story might be something you'd enjoy.

4. On Tuesday (4/21) my Tempting Signs series book, Forever Devoted, releases. This was honestly one of the hardest books I've ever written. I bawled writing it and then I'd laugh... it is a story of recovery and love and I'm super glad to finally share this one with you. If you're curious, the Sign I wrote about in this story is Taurus, so expect some stubbornness...

5. In May, we're slated to release Fighting for Fiona, the last Bond of Three book and my personal favorite of the series. The fight against the darkness gets a face in this story... so keep an eye out for the final installment!
6. In early June, I'll be attending ‪#‎RAGT15‬ in Cincinatti. If you're in the area, I'll be signing on Friday and otherwise around everywhere at the con. If you like my art, I'm putting a couple pieces up for raffle to benefit One Way Farm. ( I'll also be adding a basket full of various goodies to the and details to come.

7. June brings the super secret project we're revealing tomorrow. There may be some other surprises coming in the meantime... but I can't talk about them yet.

 8. July will hold the release of Must Love Cakes, the third of my contemporary Watkin's Pond series. You can find out more about that book and all my stories on my website,

So, yes... lots of exciting things coming. Thanks so much to my readers for making all this possible and if I didn't mention the series you're following

(*cough cough Lowe and the follow up book to Penthouse Prince...
*cough cough* Magical Mayhem for the Magical Series ...
or *cough cough* another Odd Series book...)

don't worry! I promise there is MUCH more coming soon!!

Friday, April 10, 2015

Debunking some autism myths

My daughter was diagnosed as ADHD, Aspergers, cognitive disorder and being borderline in three areas over a period of time ranging from age nine and onward.

In that time, I've heard a lot of things stated as truth which just weren't, not for us. I'm going to unpack some of those ideas here today, since we're in Autism Awareness Month.

People with autism are all a savant in something. What is the thing she's brilliant at

math, music, or art?

Since the number being bandied about on the news and social media is that 1/68 people are diagnosed with autism, one would think this myth would debunk itself. My daughter is pretty good about telling you facts about animals (she can name a tiny lizard, indigenous only to whatever region, and tell you what it likes to eat and other random details) and she can tell you all about Black Veil Brides. She can't write a sonnet or a symphony, although I'm sure if she devoted all of her time to it, she could learn those things over a period of time and probably do an okay job. But that's the deal—she'd have to devote all of her time to learning it. For a long time. Nothing has ever magically come easily for her and, although she's wonderful...she's never going to wake up as Rain Man. Not all of them are genius at one particular thing, but I think the myth of this being true stemmed out of a lot of movies dedicated to rare cases... not the average kid on the spectrum.

You can tell by looking at a person whether or not they are on the autism spectrum.

Nope, no you cannot.

You can recognize whether a kid is on the autism spectrum within moments of listening to them talk/seeing how they act.

Nope, no you cannot. It is called a spectrum because there is a wide and diverse array of disability within the range, and all of it is shoved under the vague banner of "autism spectrum." Some of these kids are non-verbal. Some are really verbal. Some are hyper. Some just sit and stare. You can no more guess at someone's diagnosis than you can accurately look at a child and rattle off their social security number. It isn't printed on their forehead...and the diagnosis often changes as the kid ages. You just learn more about a child as they grow in general. *shrug* It is that simple and that complex all at once.

If you're the parent of a child with autism, you're very patient.

Ha! Ha-ha-ha! So, do you think that at some point in the pregnancy, the magical blue fairy of patience came and smacked me with her wand, gifting me with the magical power of patience in preparation for parenting my child? Nope. Either that or the fairy skipped me.

Doctors just give that title to kids of parents who want attention. There is no real medical issue, it is all made up.

Years. That's how long my daughter has been under various doctors' care. Years of testing, of reevaluating, of revisiting... specialists, neurologists, psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, school aid, physical and occupational and speech therapists... And none of those appointments was magically convenient for me, as a single parent of THREE (all of whom needed my attention) children. I never had the time for the "attention," and all of the various doctors/specialists have degrees in their area of specialty. Somehow, I think those years of med school mean they don't just hand out diagnosis like Halloween candy.

Those are some I can think of off the top of my head. If I were to sum up the myths of autism in a sentence, it would probably be...

Everyone is different. Get to know them before you make assumptions.